You are Exactly Where You Need To Be

Perception is reality but the journey to the soul through our hair lies within. Our hair is an extension of us, merely an accessory. It does not define who we are —

October 2020 — One time someone told me ‘when you cut your hair you’re getting rid of all the negative energy that has been following you. It’s watched you go through so much and is a record of how far you’ve grown.’

So here I am chopping my hair and coloring it because change is good! I haven’t been able to accept that until recently. I’m still learning to accept everything that’s happened— it’s a process, everything is a process. We are all constantly evolving. Think about everything that’s gone on in the last year and evaluate how it’s made you stronger. Be conscious of your growth and keep going.

Looking back at this photo and the words I spoke almost three years ago makes me feel so many emotions. This was the first time I’d ever colored my hair, and the first time cutting it after the abusive relationship ended. It’s truly amazing how much we can learn and grow from our past experiences.

October 2022 — Messing around with new and shorter hairstyles… I’ve had this complex around my hair for a while, but haven’t done anything about it. Earlier this year in February my friends and I gave myself an undercut (subtle but made me feel 10x lighter and gave me more peace of mind of who i actually am) but nothing feels like enough. I’m slowly realizing hair does not add or take away anything. I was always told to keep my hair long, to keep my natural color. That natural was better and that’s what made me beautiful.
Our hair is an extension of oneself, not apart of who we are. It can be used for self expression, and also as an act of defiance.

So on this road trip i’ve been having ceremonial hair cutting rituals where I cut off a few inches in each state i pass through. It has been so freeing. I feel so light. Our hair holds trauma, and it grows as we grow through life. Each strand is a tiny chronicle of every emotional, hormonal and nutritional experience. “Most people with shoulder-length hair are carrying with them the last three to six years of every sickness, setback, or traumatic incident.” (msg/ email me if you’d like the link to this article edit: after a year i no longer have this article) “In modern Western culture, while we may not have the conscious understanding of the spiritual impact of why we choose to cut our hair after big life changes…”

In shamanic practice, there is a ceremony called a cutting of cords, a release of old energies, patterns, beliefs, and connections. There our many ways to do this, but using an extension of the self (our hair) is a beautiful way to do so. Piece by piece I am shedding parts of the past self to find my true authentic self. Layer by layer, as confidence grows enlightenment flows. Here is to the beginning and the end of an era

April 2023 — In my britney spears era..
rebirth // reflection
There are no words to describe the weight that’s been lifted off of my shoulders— literally. I’m just sitting in bliss. this transformation has been on my mind for so long now. Once i learned that our hair holds trauma and grows with us, I knew I wanted to cut all my hair off. Say goodbye and start fresh, ya know? I kept postponing because I didn’t feel confident in my own skin. I grew up believing my hair was “apart of me.” My whole life society and everyone around me told me not to cut or dye my hair and that long, natural hair was beautiful— don’t get me wrong, it is— but long natural hair doesn’t make me a woman, and it doesn’t make me beautiful. Beauty comes from within, and is in the eye of the beholder. Perception is reality and everyone has an opinion. Keep an open mind and come with love and an open mind.

In September I left for a road trip of self-exploration. Oh boy did I find out so much about myself. I slowly started cutting off inches of hair in each state that I visited (8 total) but still couldn’t picture myself without my hair. Towards the end of my road trip I ended up losing to my addiction and two months later when I came home I did my first big chop since I was in the 5th grade. It was so magical and freeing but it wasn’t enough, I knew I wanted to take off more but was scared still. I cut off a few more inches about a month later & dyed it again but every time I looked in the mirror I didn’t see myself, it didn’t look like me. I wanted to shave it but I was waiting to for reasons outside of myself. A man.

I had to let go of my fear. And I suppose I had to let go of him as well. Immediately after my hair was gone I felt reborn. Baby jac. Pure. Innocent… hair is not apart of us but an extension of who we are, like clothing, a way for self expression. It grows with us, and sees all that we’ve been through. For so long I have been unable to express myself and cared too much what others thought, but we’re finally done giving a f*ck.

July 2023 — Three months, Three years, Three days… Time is a construct but as we continue to learn from our past we realize the cycles keep showing up in our life until we complete them thoroughly.

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