What is confidence? Honestly, I’m the last person to be giving advice on this subject— I’m constantly in my head questioning myself. But that’s what I’ve learned, finding confidence within means not giving a fuck what ANYONE thinks of me. Usually when we question ourselves it’s because of outside influences. When we second guess our gut feeling it’s because we’ve been programmed to think a certain way. We need to be & act a certain way, especially as a woman.
Not anymore.
On the podcast, Chats W/ Jax, I dive into this subject on Episode 7. The podcast has been a beautiful way for me to step into my power. One way I’ve found confidence is through releasing and shedding layers of myself through opening up my story to the world.
If you’re anything like me— confidence seems to be there, but sometimes it’s hard to let it shine. For me, expressing confidence is to not give one. single. fuck. about what anyone thinks of me. If you love me, I love you. and if you hate me, I still love you, because you need it.
I’m here to break down walls and barriers and challenge myself to question everything we’ve been taught. Sounds fun right? It is for me. And I don’t care who I lose while on this ride— everyone who is meant to be in my life is still here, and still supports me.
Do I have your attention yet?
Judgement is a crazy thing we humans can’t get away from, but it’s something I’m working on. When we stop caring, when we stop judging ourselves + others, we have peace.
But how do we step into that mindset? Changing the way we think isn’t easy. It’s been programmed into us.
It starts with noticing and changing the first thought. When you see someone what’s the first thing you think? Was it negative or positive?
If it was negative, that’s okay. Notice and process why you may be feeling or thinking that way about the person you’re judging.
A lot of the time, judgement stems from insecurities. Other times, judgement comes from jealousy.
Jealousy and insecurity are both unnatural feelings. The opposite emotions, to me, would be confidence and acceptance. When we accept ourselves for who we are we get rid of the jealous feeling. When we have confidence in who we are, we can’t feel insecure.
No matter how hard we work on ourselves these feelings may still surface, but what matters is how we choose to respond to it.
All of the confidence you need is already inside of yourself. It’s time to unlock your potential and break down the barriers and stigmas. You are exactly where you need to be
You are Exactly Where You Need To Be 